Hey, My family has gone through some serious s*** of late and I'm looking for a young counsellor. As young as possible but still experienced. Someone who deals with incest and family matters. I have tried a few places but most of them are on in their years. I'm looking for one for my 16 yo sister who needs someone to relate to. She doesn't like talking to older councillors and she needs someone younger. If anyone knows someone can you please let me know.

Please no stupid posts.

Cheers,
Slink

everyone on qgl is a councillor!

councillor

oh teh ironies. TOMMOROES.

Please no stupid posts

surely you jest?

Does this count as a stupid post?

Edit: Seriously though, sorry to hear about the trouble ... and incest, yikes. Good luck all the same ... but don't psychologists and all of those sorts have to go through 8 years of study at least to become even remotely qualified? Going to be tough finding a young one.

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tits?

We got manlissa through some troubles and we are here to help now.

Hi Slinky.
Counsellor is the spelling you're looking for. Don't lose hope - it is a fact that most counsellors/psychologists don't become one early in life. It does take time for them to realise their calling. My fiancee's old man is a psychologist - and they're awesome people. I hear what you're saying about your 16-yo sister - I have a 16-yo sister too and they can be very picky about who they do and don't feel comfortable with. Keep on hunting mate - counselling does a lot more good than most people give it credit for. And any effort put into resolving issues like this is done alot easier now than later on in life.

Good luck mate, and ignore the idiots who give you trouble.

If you don't have any serious input then please f*** off.

Just asking a serious question.

Yeah, things around here are pretty s*** and out of hand. And my sister isn't coping as she won't talk to anyone about the issues.

Thankyou though.

Alot of high schools have counsellors - sometimes they are useless, sometimes they are the best people in the world. Also look at other organisations perhaps work related - for example I know the ambos have a counselling service not just for them but open for their families too. Think wide.

Cheers Mr. Hardware. I stand corrected. I go see my counsellor at uni as I know I know I need to deal with the grief, guilt, pain etc. But my sis won't talk to anybody about it and I was just hoping someone on here might know somebody. Yes counsellors usually find their calling later in life but there has got to be one that went straight in after high school. She doesn't like going to sexual assault counselling due to the age difference and not been able to relate.

One of the problems is that she left school this yr (yr 12 now) to do a full time apprenticeship in hair dressing. So she lost that support from the counsellor at school who has tried to tlak to her but my sis refuses to.

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I can understand that - but as you may know, there is a percentage of counsellors that become counsellors because they have had to deal with some serious things in their life previous. I can see that you see the seriousness and urgency of help for her, i hope that she is able to see it too before too long. Whilst im not terribly close to my sister, I can relate to how it is important for a big brother to help his sister when needed. What you're doing is good mate, don't give up hey.

I doubt dragons are going to help this story.

as for councilors, try uni psych services
my girlfriends studying to be a shrink at qut, I'll ask her when she wakes up
pretty sure anyone can go to them and they're not expensive

Yeah, I just wish I could do more for her. The guilt that she is going through and the pain because of it all.


Cheers Teq, Very appreciated.

slinky - I'm marrying a psych so I know a few things about em. Firstly the youngest you will get will be around 21/22 but they'll only just have a degree and not very much real world experience. The best psych for their age will be around 26/27 who will have a masters which requires alot of practical work with internships and the like.

I'd suggest you contact either the uni clinics (they have masters students working there) or Spirtius, Relationships AU, etc.

If you want any more specific info then PM me and I'll ask my womanz what the best way to handle the situation is.

Go see your GP, they'll point you in the right direction.

pics?

Shrink's are f***wits that think they know everything, you're better off avoiding them.

^- Clearly misinformed opinion.. no wonder you're in the US.

the f*** would you know.

Normally anyone that makes such a rash generalization by labeling all "shrinks f***wits" probably doesn't understand they're purpose or methods.

I'm guessing you probably saw one, they highlighted lots of things wrong with you and you didn't like it and/or thought you knew better than someone with years upon years of training and knowledge in the field.

Wrong. You're saying shrinks just sit there and tell you what's wrong with you? sound like f***wits to me.

anyway im off.

Crackaveli, you are simply displaying your ignorance and lack of understanding.

i think we now know Crakaveli is a Scientologist.

i'm tom cruise lolz

Why don't you talk to your sister yourself? I mean obviously you already know about whatever the hell it was that went on so she shouldn't be embarrassed talking about it and you're family so I'm assuming she'd trust you. At least once you get her to open up to you she might feel more comfortable talking to a professional.

edit:

Please no stupid posts.

oh and, this is QGL, you can't seriously think no one here would post something stupid. Hell I bet if someone posted a thread saying they were going to go kill themselves because of whatever reason there'd be at least 10 people wanting pics, another couple wanting a youtube link and 1 person posting that nike: just do it picture.

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*obligatory "Your sister sounds hot... maybe I could talk to her?"*

On a serious note, good luck in your quest. Getting somebody who needs help to even SEE a councellor is half the battle. I hope your hot sister gets the help she needs and everything turns out ok.

Your story begs the question though: is/are other(s) involved in the mentioned incident(s) receiving help too? There is clearly more than one person involved in this, and I hope all involved are getting the necessary help.

To Crakaveli: Yeah, f*** grammar, you're in a hurry. I'm amazed somebody as retarded as you can manage to operate a computer.

hit up uni shrinks, but yer you're not going to have much like finding anyone under 21+ with decent experience...

if all else fails though, myspace.

The Church of Scientology will help!

Oh wait, since someone threw a cinderblock through their window, they've retreated into hiding in Brisbane. Bummer eh ?

wat

WTF INCEST!)&!$()&!@(&

Hey mate. can't help you out. but just wanna say hope s*** gets sorted

only met ya once but you seem like a champ!~

for some reason this reminds of another thread in a another forum

So I am 21 and my little sister is only 11. Anyways she gets in the shower and a little while later gets out and goes into her room to dress.

Like 3 seconds later she starts screaming and I am working out in my room doing my third rep of chest curls, so I have no shirt on. I immediatly drop my 50 lb weights and barge in and ask her what the [censored] is wrong with her and she points up at the ceiling and its just a little stupid spider on the ceiling. Our ceiling is kind of high so I have to jump to get it. So i grab a magazine and jump up to swat it. and I hit it a little but it falls and lands right on my [censored] sisters head.

she immideatly drops her towel and starts swatting at her head screaming "GET IT OFF, GET IT OFF" I notice it crawling down her back and it is still alive I drop the magazine because it wasnt working so well and i grab her shoulder with one hand to get control of her because she is flailing around like a maniac and then I am swatting at it with my only other free hand. and just then my parents burst in and see her naked and me in just my [censored] shorts spanking her rearend while she is crying her [censored] guts out.

Most [censored] embarassing day of my life. I tried to explain to them i was like "guys oh no wait there was a spider there was spider and stuff". and my little sister was still crying her guts oout and my dad just exploded and told me to "get in your [censored] room immediatly you sick [censored] bastard". It doesnt help that a couple months ago they found a pair of her undies on my floor. I dont know how they got there but probably were stuck in my pants after mom did laundry or something.

i really feel like killing myself right now

^^^ haha that's hilarious, reminds me of a thread on SA I think, or maybe it was a screenshot from another forum posted on there of some guy who liked to sniff his sisters panties and his parents found out & sent him to a shrink. I wonder if its the same guy.

hope you get at least one helpful response to counteract the retardedness you surely know a post like that is going to spawn...

i have no idea personally, maybe b.hardware could point you in the right direction - he does psych yeah?

There are psych's out there that specialize in younger people. They know heaps of methods to get them to open up, usually it takes time though. It is a common problem for people of her age to not want to talk to anyone.

Is the person responsible for the sexual assault being prosecuted?

(and to think I almost didn't bother clicking on this thread)

no he's still posting on qgl...

Good Luck Slinky, sorry I can't help in any other way.

PS - To all the tards, this is not funny, grow the f*** up.

I know someone that would be perfect.. just pm me

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My sister's in her third year of phsyc and she's 19. Not experienced, but if there is a SERIOUS need for someone younger you could probably ask.

I'd recommend for someone older, though.

my gf recently finished her psych degree, some of her friends that graduated with her are now doing counselling work before doing post grad, all are 21-22, pm me i'll see what i can do

well i'll be darned... i thought i was the only one with a psychologist girlfriend/wife (mines doing her masters now).

geeks must attract shrinks :/

or shrinks get attached to case studys

haha

To those who posted a serious reply. Thankyou and very appreciated.

I talk to my sister quite a bit but there is no profession advice behind it, just what I would personally do. She needs someone to assess her to help her through and break down on those walls that people talk about. I go see my counsellor and she is great, who is easy to talk to. But my sis won't open up to anyone and she has said that she wants someone younger that she can talk to. It's just an ongoing problem.

Yeah, what has happened charges have been layed and he will be prosecuted. (looking at 25 to life).

Thankyou all for the well wishes.

Cheers,
slink

psych chicks are hawt

But seriously, do you really think revealing the source of your sisters grief to all of QGL is a really smart idea? The last thing she needs is a friend of a friend of a friend at her school finding out so and so's sister is dealing with an incestuous incident. She won't even talk to a counselors about it and you are advertising it on a public forum with a Brisbane primarily audience! That's really gonna help.

And I'm not talking s***, I do know someone who suffered from a similar thing when they were young.

I think you should use more discretion, and maybe find a sexual assault forum that deals with these kind of issues. You will surely find someone in there who has death with a similar circumstances more so than QGL.

You may as well just tell us everything now.

hi, my name's persay. i specialise in incest. giggity.

slinky can we have more info? then we might be able to better help you in your time of need.

id ask one of your trusted female freinds to talk to her. It would be ideal because 1) female 2) closer to her age group 3) not exactly a shrink, therefore it seems more lax 4) you both can relate to her.

you'd think people would have learned not to post their serious life s*** on qgl

yeah someone gets paid out for posting a medical problem and that's funny; someone get's paid out for posting an incest/psychological problem and that's just insensitive.

WTF?

i know a councillor who has dealt with this stuff but its older, in 50's so maybe the graduates migth be a better choice?

Where's the pic of cat with an inappropriate comment for this thread ?

How about you just promise to never have sex with her again?

We can at least take solace in knowing that that was bound to happen.

You're a sick f*** dice... No one would ever want that to happen to anyone.. Ever.. You sick f***er...







oh you meant the post.. oh sorry..

I talk to my sister quite a bit but there is no profession advice behind it, just what I would personally do. She needs someone to assess her to help her through and break down on those walls that people talk about. I go see my counsellor and she is great, who is easy to talk to. But my sis won't open up to anyone and she has said that she wants someone younger that she can talk to. It's just an ongoing problem.

Smart attitude, yeah sometimes talking to another family members who cannot be objective about the issue will not help. It almost easier to talk to a perfect stranger that have a ability to look at it objectively.

I don't know any "young" shrink sorry :( But I hope you _all_ get through this in some fashion. It won't be pretty but at least you've taken the first step of recognising the problem and tackling it head on.

Good luck.

so was it her father that touched her?

how does this thread end?

we won't ever hear how it turned out and slinky will forever cop s*** about his f***ed up family f***ing each other?

just a guess

mr sensitivity^

slinky are you rubber_band that i used to know?

nah it's a different guy deeps

he will be prosecuted. (looking at 25 to life).



You wish. About the only crime that could MAYBE bring that amount of time down on someone is double murder. Hell, import heroin into Autralia and you don't even get that much jail time.

The perpetrator of this will be out in 5 years, if that.

slinky you can't start a thread and NOT not go into detail (and pictures).

Tell her to start a thread on here and we will all talk her through the healing process.

If your after a therapist it might be a good place to start by trying www.beyondblue.org.au or www.pacfa.org.au/find_therapist_member_assoc.html; which is a Counselling federation, you can get lists of registered practitioners from both these sites.